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Monday, June 28th, 2010


pictured above: Me, with short hair


Thirteen years after the debut of my first website at Yahoo Geocities in 1997, the mere six page Transvestite Freedom Fighter has morphed into a veritable beast in a labyrinthine maze of links. Up till this year, I kept all the pages accumulated over the years intact, but I realized that I was not unique in that way thousands of Twitters fancy themselves to be. So I streamlined to the things my loyal audiences continue to appreciate: pictures, images, and thoughts regarding transgender identity. I have also devoted space to futanari (she-male) drawings I find intriguing.

I believe transgender people are oft represented either negatively in the media as serial killers and freaks, or online as individuals obsessed with documenting their transition. I wanted to provide a modest but positive and free website that depicts the humor, innate curiosity, and alas -need I say it? – intellectual inquiry of one transgender person. I don’t even like to use the term “transgender” because to me, it’s purely a legal term for advocating rights and policies in public spaces. I have switched to calling myself a mere “eccentric,” because that term, at least, provides the option of going to new territories when doubt is innate in a developing identity. Besides, friends have long called me “the outlying factor.” I am easily an outcast even in the so-called transgender community, where personal agenda is aggressively – sometimes even militantly – rammed down one’s throat (ie. “If you don’t take hormones and get the operation, you are not legit“) To be fair, it’s risky business to label oneself “transgender” when one considers the mind-numbing amount of weekend warrior headless trannies on flickr.

I’m just glad I am so far over in the left field, I am standing on the lacrosse grounds.

I have been eccentric for over thirty years. I don’t plan to transition fully, because both the male and female anatomy are remarkable, gorgeous works of art. I am struck by wonder when I think about the beauty of the human body. I am not a hormone-taker, as I feel that sex drive is one of the critical lifeforce in sustaining the great human imagination.

Human beings are constantly in danger in their coexistence with viruses. But we shouldn’t flatter ourselves as superior beings. Instead, we should take the path of virus mutation as an ideal, and develop accordingly. I want to continuously, energetically, and joyfully change, morph, improve, learn, and absorb knowledge, wisdom, and humane lessons with each passing day.

This, for me, is the most important transition: to be a human being first, an eccentric second, and a transgendered person if all else fails.

So relax, make yourself at home, and enjoy!

P.A. June 28, 2010

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The Opposite of Wallflower (update: March 02, 2010)

Tuesday, March 2nd, 2010

What is it? Everyone debates, but there is no consensus. Mixer, extrovert, showboater?

Yet everyone knows what a wallflower is. I was just having a conversation with the bf the other night about how women tend to be wallflowers. It may sound traditional, and in some quarters, it may even be frowned upon. It would seem that society gives more leeway to women for being wallflowers. For men to be wallflowers, they would be seen as “queens” in the gay world, or socially-impaired in the straight world.

I know I come across articles where interviewed guys say how cool it is for the girl to be the aggressor once in a while, that it is nice for the girl to make the first move. I can sympathize with that. But I am surrounded by traditionalist books chock full of 1950s advice articles. I think it’s okay for the girl to be frightened little creatures, especially in settings where it’s a male-oriented domain. I too, see men who are wallflowers as a tad high-maintenance. I guess that’s what happens after years of soy energy bars, Starbucks Buttofuccocino and Sarah McLachlan mp3s on the IPod.

Trust me, if you are a guy who is after a girl, another tgirl, or even a guy, the bottom half always likes to be pursued. As much as people kick and scream about the perks of modern egalitarian order, there’s nothing quite as sexually arousing as a man on the prowl. He gets kingpin respect, no matter how much he’s not all that. Even though society ladies today flip gangsta signs and get out of confession booths without panties on, a man is still defined by his actions, a gal by her helplessness, or inaction.

Among girls, when they see a fellow sitting there waiting for the women to come to him, the first thing out of our scandalized mouths is, “who does that bloke think he is, a chick?” As a person who has pursued others decades ago – and seen how easy it is – I myself think, this guy is either a princess or he’s lazy as sin.

To be fair, in the game of the hunter and the hunted, what women lack in physical aggression, they more than make up for in signals. I guess it’s the guys who know how to read them that become the first ones past the gate. I think one needs to make the distinction between a wallflower and playing hard-to-get. A wallflower is just too shy to make the first move. Playing hard-to-get is pretending you are unobtainable even after the first move has been made.

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