I am implementing a FAQ for this site. Based on questions I have been asked in the past, I selected ten most frequent questions.
10. Aren’t you promoting discrimination against women by lauding chauvinistic, take-charge men?
Although I am greatly appreciative whenever feminists include transwomen in their call for equality, I think it’s safe to say that no one will look at what I do or say, and subsequently rethink their perspectives on the equal treatment of women. No one could possibly read d332.com and walk away saying, “she speaks for all women” or “she speaks for all transwomen” for that matter. At the same time I am not one of those flaky individuals who claim I am being ironic and my statements and behaviors are clever, sarcastic commentaries on the antiquated patriarchal society. I would be positively horrified to see genetic women get run over by men if that was not something they desired, which is most of the time. At the same time, we have to remember there are women out there who feel comfortable being bossed around by men, letting the man take charge. They just don’t attain the same visibility as feminists. The concept of choice is based on your freedom to chose, it is not about being bullied into having the same ideals as everyone else.
9. Do you like role-playing?
I have an intense dislike of role-playing. A perfect summation of all the things I find wrong with role-playing can be seen in 2008’s movie CHOKE, when Heather Burns as Gwen- the internet date- rattles off an endless set of rules to Victor for their s/m play-r@pe role-playing. If you are a nice, kind-hearted fellow, then I’d be delighted if you remained one. If you are a possessive, ruthless, alpha-male, SOB who likes 24-7 HOH (head of household) micro-managing of his girlfriend, that okay with me too. Just don’t try to be something you are not. It reeks of phoniness.
I am NOT into the S/M scene. I read the writings of the Marquis de Sade when I was young. I was electrified by the daring of Pasolini’s Salo, and have a greater appreciation of it now that I am acquainted with the writings of Pierre Klossowski and the menu of Mickey-D’s. But the salutation of “master” or “mistress,” all those whips, ball-gags, latex, ropes and chains tell me one thing: if you need all these superficial tools to assist you, you really don’t have true power over (or trust with) that person.
8. Do you date transwomen, transgirls, or genetic girls?
No. I dated only men when I was dating. (I am currently in a full time relationship with a man). I started dating men in my early twenties. I have no desire to date women or transwomen. I have even less than no desire to date men who like to dress, or men who like to try on women’s clothing. I have nothing against it. It just doesn’t do anything for me.
7. Are you post-op?
No. I don’t plan to do anything with the main plumbing. I think a woman’s anatomy is a gorgeous work of art. I also think that a man’s anatomy is equally beautiful. To modify that part of me, in my opinion, would be like taking a knife to one of Gorgia O’Keefe’s paintings. It would be like dumping a can of Pollock’s paint onto a Vermeer.
6. Are you on hormones?
No. I have heard that hormones disturb one’s sex drive. It may or may not impede mine, but I am not willing to take that chance. One’s sex drive is the lifeforce that frees one’s creative imagination. I have no issues with my organ. I play piano.
5. What are you into?
Stepford Wife, which should never be confused with the docile, love-you-long-time, mail-order brides. The former is out of choice, the latter is necessitated by the desire to obtain a U.S. citizenship, which, when achieved, is usually followed by a summary discarding of the husband. I have been in the U.S. since a child. If anything, moving out of the United States would be a grand idea.
4. Do you pass?
Probably not. The giveaway is my height. I am a few millimeters shy of 6 feet tall without heels. If people chose to look closer, they will probably see something. If they just go about their business, they probably won’t. Having said that, there’s been this observation that many supermodels tend to have androgen insensitivity, which means a Y-chromosome alongside a mutated X. That’s why they are so tall, and sometimes slightly masculine looking. Whenever I think about the plight of my height, I console myself by remembering the time I saw Kamila Szczawinska walk down 8th ave. in NYC. She towered above every man on the sidewalk, and she actually looked prettier in real life than all the super-retouched Vogue magazine ads I’ve seen her in.
3. What type of men do you like?
In the Jean-Paul Satre play Dirty Hands, Hoederer says, “I, I love them (men) for what they are. With all their filth and all their vices. I love their voices and their warm grasping hands, and their skin, the nudest skin of all, and their uneasy glances, and the desperate struggle each has to pursue against anguish and against death.” As long as they wear men’s clothes, I always manage to find quite a few interesting things about all the men I come across. I have mentioned how chauvinistic men, as a soon-to-be-extinct anachronism, fascinates me greatly.
2. Why do you like pink so much, is it because it’s girly?
Actually my love of pink originated from my love of a beverage in my childhood. It’s an ice-cold, milky, sweet, drink filled with the scent of Pandan leaves. It is called Rosewater Ice Milk. Sure, pink is girly, and that’s a fun perk. Hello Kitty is also pink. My electric guitar is also pink. But I wouldn’t love something just because it was girly. If I did, I wouldn’t have such a dreadful time telling an episode of the Hills from Gossip Girl, or Beyonce’s songs from Hannah Montana’s. At this point, I can’t even tell the difference between American Idol and Billy Idol.
1. What outfit epitomizes your look best?
For an accessory: the ribbon. For an outfit, the matronly schoolmarm librarian outfit. For anything below, there can only be one: the garter belt with stockings.
